Deal with an intimidating

When you feel upset with or challenged by someone, before you say or do something you might later regret, take a deep breath and count slowly to ten.In many instances, by the time you reach ten, you would have regained composure, and figured out a better response to the issue, so that you can reduce, instead of exacerbate the problem.These individuals may exist in our personal sphere or professional environment.On the surface, they may come across as domineering, confrontational, demanding, hostile, or even abusive.Following are some of our fundamental human rights: You have the right to be treated with respect. We attempt to deal with irrational by being the opposite. Let's be real and drop the political correctness for a moment.You have the right to express your feelings, opinions and wants. You have the right to say “no” without feeling guilty. You have the right to have opinions different than others. Do you think a lion actually gives second thought to the lamb it ate for lunch? If you REALLY want to understand dominance, then get down to the nature of it's existence, and there you will find the answers.The first rule of thumb in the face of a difficult person is to keep your cool.

— Paramhansa Yogananda Most of us encounter aggressive, intimidating, or controlling personalities at some points in our lives.

As long as we’re being reasonable and considerate, difficult behaviors from others say a lot more about them than they do about us. I mean things change from year to year or from 194?

By reducing personalization, we can be less reactive and concentrate our energy on problem-solving. Know Your Fundamental Human Rights* A crucial idea to keep in mind when you’re dealing with a difficult person is to know your rights, and recognize when they’re being violated. Journal of Personality and Social Psychology, Vol 52 No 6 (1987) Carr-Ruffino, Norma. to now, people us to whip their kids & lock the disabiked kinds up, so how do we deal with the people who are grown up & either had a bad [now] past or the parents did not teach them?

Because I work in an environment where this type of behaviour is common, I have developed a lot of tactics to help myself effectively deal with this type of behaviour.

I never raise my voice, I always try to look interested, open and unflustered and I back up my display of confidence with an understanding that others are most often projecting their insecurities rather than communicating my place in the hierarchy (I would be very surprised if the people I deal with are purposefully communicating non-verbally with me).

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